Imperfect Hospitality: A Month of Practicing What I Preach

I wrote a few weeks ago about how my mother’s mismatched plates help her teach me a lesson about not having to be perfect to be hospitable. Over the last month I have been given the opportunity to practice what I preached by being really imperfect but incredibly blessed by enjoying thirty-two of our wonderful family and friends as they stopped by, stayed the night, or stayed the week at our home. All of them (so far) have survived the expierence even with all of the imperfections. 

Here’s some of the things I have learned during these weeks.

1. Patio furniture can easily double for dining room furniture when necessary.

2. A massage chair is instant entertainment for most children and can keep them occupied for hours.

3. Dogs are also very entertaining but will wear out before the children do. Petting the cat with an iPhone is also very fun.

4. Water, flour, milk, and eggs can make most of both breakfast and dinner when there are fourteen people to feed.

5. It’s a good idea to clear the children from the area when your washing machine starts leaking again and your husband is fixing it.

6. Patrick will always over-estimate how much people can eat.

7. Luckily, leftovers can be easily turned into lunch for the next day.

8. Do not bury the box of legos in the back of a closet under 15 blankets, five picture frames, six jackets, twelve dolls, and a plethora of tangled chords if you want to get to it without an 8-year-old commenting “hmm… that seems to be a problem”.

9. The TV has seen much less use and the dining table much more use in the last month because people are much more interesting than TV.

10. There is nothing quite as joyous as a house full of people, laughing, talking, eating and enjoying each other’s company.


Why We Still Need Feminism

When I bring up that I am a feminist, a lot of people comment that feminism is outdated and no longer relavent. It’s true that women in this country have made huge gains in the last hundred years. Women can now vote, own property, get an equal education, and can be in just about every occupation, so people ask why do we still need feminism?

Here are ten reasons why feminism is still needed today:

  1. St. Paul  greets Junia as an apostle, however, in the middle ages, Giles of Rome changed her name to a male name, under the assumption that a woman couldn’t be an apostle. Although this error is well known, the masculinized name Junias still appears in the American Standard Version and the Message.;
  2. In the United States, women make 77 cents on the dollar compared to what men make. Even if life choices are taken into account (often dictated by socialized gender norms such as taking time off to raise children), women only earn 91 cents for every dollar a man makes.
  3. 30% of female homicide victims are killed by an intimate partner (compared to 5% of male homicide victims).
  4. Out of every 100 adult women who reside in the state of Alaska, 48% experienced intimate partner violence, 37% experienced sexual violence and 59% experienced intimate partner violence, sexual  violence or both (that’s most of us!)                               
  5. Though a little over half the population is female, we have never had a female president and though we have record numbers of women in congress, only 78 out of 435 (about 18%) members of the House of Representatives are women and only 20 out of 100 ( 20%) members of the Senate are women.
  6. When a 15 year old girl stood up for the right of girls to get an education, the Taliban shot her.
  7. Because this happens way too much:

Found at Sociological Images: Individual vs. Group Attribution by Lisa Wade, Ph.D

8. When Pheobe is called a deacon in Romans 16:1, the Lexham English Bible, King James Version, and New American Standard Version translates the word “diakonon” as servant here simply because she is a woman but they translated it deacon when referring to men.

9. The Pope, who I usually like  says that he wouldn’t judge a gay priest, which is great, but closed the door to women as priests, which is not so great.

10. When someone is called a cunt it is perceived as far worse than being called a dick

Top Ten Things That I Believe about Facebook

10. If it says “Share this”, I’m not going to share it.
9. If it says “Like this”, I’m not going to like it.
8. Please don’t invite me to play games with you or give me 60 sheep for Farmville or ask me to help you raid the Huns. Not gonna happen.
7. If you take sixty pictures of your kids in one day, post them in an album. Do not put them individually on the news feed. It slows down the whole system and unless you are very close to me, I don’t necessarily want to see 60 pictures of your kid all at once.
6. Yes, you have the right to your political opinion, but please don’t share 50 photo shopped “posters” of the president on the news feed all at once. It is not going to change anyone’s opinion and it gums up the news feed. Consider an album. You can even title it “Ridiculous Photo Shopped Pictures of the President”. Added to this, don’t mock people who like to see kitty or baby pictures instead of posting politics all the time. Kittens are much cuter than politicians.
5. Everyone needs to vent sometimes, but if every one of your posts is about how awful your life is maybe you should consider counseling and not just rely on your friends on Facebook for free therapy.
4. If I don’t know you, don’t friend me. I’m not going to accept. Why would I want to know about Francine Stewart in New Hampshire’s day when I can barely keep track of my “real” friend’s lives?
3. If you are continually saying incredibly hateful things toward any group, I’m probably going to block myself from seeing your feed for my own emotional health. If you continue to comment self righteous close minded things on my posts, I’m probably going to block you from seeing my feed.
2. You and your spouse are two separate people with different interests and opinions (hopefully!). Get two separate Facebooks. If you want to ensure transparency between the two of you, share your password with each other. It creeps me out when I think your husband just complemented my pedicure and is asking where he can get a similar one done.
1. If you post “Re-post this if you love Jesus, and if you don’t you’re going to hell because you are denying him” I’m pretty much going to de-friend you. First, because of #10 on the list. Second, because you’re using guilt to try to manipulate your whole friend base. Third, because that’s just bad theology.

What are some things you believe about Facebook?